Teenage girl dilemmas: what a momma should do

Being a parent is never easy, but it can be especially difficult when your teenager starts to become a young woman.

By Angela Chavez




Being a parent is never easy, but it can be especially difficult when your teenager starts to become a young woman. There are so many new things to deal with – physical changes, mood swings, peer pressure. It can be tough to know how to support your daughter while also giving her the freedom she needs to grow into her own person. 

It’s a delicate balance, and it’s not always easy to find the right solution. To help you out, we’ve compiled a list of some common teenage girl parenting dilemmas and how to deal with them:

Body Image & Self-Esteem

The media bombards us with images of “perfect” women, and this can be especially tough for teenage girls who are already going through a lot of physical changes. As their bodies develop, many girls become self-conscious and start to worry about how they look. Why aren’t they as skinny as the models they see in magazines? Why haven’t they developed breasts yet? These thoughts can lead to low self-esteem and even eating disorders.

What you can do:

The best thing you can do is help your daughter understand that everyone is different and that there is no “perfect” body type. Encourage her to eat a healthy diet and get plenty of exercise, but don’t put too much emphasis on losing weight or being skinny. And most importantly, let her know that you love her no matter what she looks like. 

School Pressure

As your daughter gets older, the pressure to succeed in school will start to increase. She might feel like she has to get straight A’s, be involved in every extracurricular activity, and get into the best college possible. This can lead to a lot of stress and even depression. 

Recent surveys have shown that 75% of students feel stressed about school, and this stress can have serious effects on their health. The pressure can stem from both parents and teachers – many students feel like they can’t let their parents down or disappoint their teachers. 

What you can do:

The best thing you can do is talk to your daughter about her goals and help her develop a realistic plan for achieving them. Encourage her to take some time for herself, whether it’s reading, going for walks, or just relaxing with friends. Let her know that academic achievement is important, but it’s not the only thing that matters in life. 

Peer Pressure

As your daughter starts to socialize more, she will inevitably be exposed to peer pressure. This can take many forms – drinking, smoking, drugs, sex. It can be tough to know how to protect your daughter while also giving her the space to make her own decisions. 

What you can do:

The best thing you can do is educate yourself on the risks and talk to your daughter about them in an open and honest way. Try to create a relationship with her where she feels comfortable coming to you with any problems or questions she might have. And if she does make a mistake, be there to support her and help her learn from it. 

Anxiety & Depression

We’ve all been there – teenage years can be a time of emotional upheaval, and it’s not uncommon for girls to experience anxiety or depression. These conditions can interfere with schoolwork, social life, and relationships. 

In recent years, the rates of anxiety and depression among teenagers have been increasing, and many experts believe that this is due to the increased pressure they face. 

What you can do:

If you think your daughter might be struggling with anxiety or depression, the best thing you can do is talk to her about it. Let her know that she’s not alone and that you’re there for her. Encourage her to see a therapist or counselor if necessary, and help her develop healthy coping mechanisms.  

A Toxic Cyber Environment

In today’s world, the internet is a part of everyday life. But this constant connection can also be detrimental, especially for teenage girls. Social media platforms like Instagram and Facebook can create a toxic environment where everyone can hide behind their screens and say things they wouldn’t dare say in person. This can lead to cyberbullying, on top of a host of other problems. 

What you can do:

While it may not be possible to completely shield your daughter from the negative aspects of the internet, you can talk to her about how to use it in a positive way. Encourage her to be thoughtful about what she posts and who she interacts with online. Help her develop a thick skin, so that if she does encounter negativity, she knows how to deal with it. 

Open Communication & a Safe Space Makes All the Difference

These are just a few of the dilemmas parents of teenage girls face. The best thing you can do is to be open and honest with your daughter, and create a safe space where she can come to you with anything. A relationship based on trust and communication will make all the difference during these challenging years.

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